I had the perfect little girl. We had an unbreakable bond, or so I thought. At age 11, I soon learned a painful truth. That perfect little girl had now become a stranger to me. She treated ME like a stranger to HER. I’m watching our relationship crumble, the distance between us grow. I retreated more and more, because that’s what I thought she wanted. In truth, it was also to protect my own heart.
It began affecting my relationship with my husband as well. Why didn’t HE bear the brunt of the attacks like I did? Why am I public enemy #1, even when we present a united front? I began to feel jealous and resentful of his role. He had it easy, while I was devastated. I stayed up nights worrying, thinking about battles past, wondering what I was doing wrong, and if my daughter was just lost forever. And even worse, was she going to hate me into adulthood?
I began searching for help, only to find that, other than family therapy, there was just not very much available. I could read a book, but I couldn’t get support. Looking to family and friends didn’t help either, as the prevailing advice was to “wait it out.” “She’ll grow out of it.” “She’ll come back to you one day,” they said.
ONE DAY?!? So what am I supposed to do in the meantime? Allow social media, friends, and God knows who else to step into my role and be her support, and worse yet, her INFLUENCERS? That answer was just not acceptable to me.
I decided that I was NOT going to wait it out and hope for the best.
And so the LYTE program was born.
LYTE stands for “Love Your Teenage (daughter) Enthusiastically.” I wanted to not only EDUCATE moms how to walk through this minefield, but to also SUPPORT them in their journey. I shared my mistakes as well as the wisdom I have acquired to show you that you CAN remain in her life through this time as a powerful, influential force, while allowing her to grow up and realize her own power within.